So I finally have the time to sit down (with a nice cup of tea) and do my first blog post. I’m really excited about this — it’s the little things 🙂 I promised that my first post would be specially geared towards my future brides (and grooms) to address some of the concerns you have about wedding invitations. The wedding planning process in general can be quite overwhelming at times, even without all the wedding and stationery etiquette thrown in the mix. Hopefully I can lessen the burden a little and clear some things up for you. In this post I will address 3 of the most pressing questions I come across regarding wedding stationery.
One of the many questions I run into is, “when should I mail my invitations?” I decided to address this first because if you don’t stick to a strict timeline with notifying your guests, you could run into real problems down the road. I always tell brides to plan to mail their invitations 6-8 weeks before the wedding, and 12-16 weeks before if you’re having a destination wedding or if your date falls on a holiday. By adhering to this time frame, you’re allowing your guests ample time to RSVP, plan and make travel arrangements. You’re also eliminating stress from your own plate by giving yourself time to collect RSVP’s (this is arguably one of the most stressful parts about wedding invitations, but we can address ways to make this process easier in a future blog post).
Another common question is, “how many invitations do I need to order?” Many brides and grooms assume that because they have a guest list of 150, that means they have to mail 150 invitations. Not the case at all! Think of it this way, you’re sending invitations per household, not per person! Depending on the style you choose, an invitation could easily cost you between $3 and $10 each, so you want to make sure you’re not being wasteful. Rule of thumb is, each household receives one invitation, unless there are teen or adult children living in the home. In that case, they would receive their own invitation. Most couples choose not to do this, and just send one per home. It’s totally your call, but I will say this. Please, please, please do not address the invitation to “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe & Family”. It’s just not the proper thing to do and it leaves the door open for all ten members of the Doe family to crash your wedding. You want to be specific on your invitation in exactly who you are inviting. We can also address this on a future post.
Lastly, I’ll address the question of, “can I add my registry information to my invitation?” No, no, no (that was easy, haha)! No, but in all seriousness, this is an etiquette faux pas. It’s extremely poor taste to mention anything about gifts on any type of invitation, let alone a wedding invitation. Mentioning gifts or a registry implies that your expectation of your guests is that they send or bring gifts. While this may be an actual expectation of yours, it’s kind of rude to suggest it. You’re inviting your guests to your wedding because you love them and want to share this special time with them — not because you’re expecting a gift. If you are doing a wedding website (which I strongly suggest), think about including the website link on your invitation and have your registry info listed there. Or, task your mother or bridesmaids with sharing registry information with your guests, but only if they inquire about it. It will leave a bad taste in peoples mouths if you have your entourage calling to remind them that you’re registered at Bloomie’s, Tiffany’s, or Williams-Sonoma.
I could go on and on about wedding stationery etiquette, but these are definitely the top 3 concerns that I come across. If you have a stationery etiquette question or topic you’d like me to address, don’t hesitate to reach out! I can be reached via email at firstname.lastname@example.org. I hope you enjoyed my first blog post. I’m looking forward to the many amazing topics we’ll cover in the future!